Learn To Love Being Wrong

If you could choose between being happy and being right, which would you consciously choose? 

I have a confession to make.  I am a former “rightaholic”.  You know what a “rightaholic” is.  It’s someone who insists on being right.  I used to be “that person” who had the need to compete…no matter what.  That was until the mid 80’s when the wisdom of Dale Carnegie opened my eyes to the true price of needing to be right.  It was costing me friends and relationships.  And that’s when I started my journey to learn to love being wrong.

In Carnegie’s book, “How To Win Friend and Influence People”, he explains how we turn friends into enemies by sharing an excerpt from Carl Rogers’ book, “On Becoming A Person.  The excerpt goes like this…

“Our first reaction to most of the statements (which we hear from other people) is an evaluation or judgement, rather than an understanding of it.  When someone expresses some feeling, attitude, or belief, our tendency is almost immediately to feel “that’s right,” or “that’s stupid,” “that’s abnormal,” “that’s unreasonable,” that’s incorrect,” “that’s not nice.”  Very rarely do we permit ourselves to understand precisely what the meaning of the statement is to the other person.”

Does that sound familiar to you?  It sure does to me.  When was the last time you heard yourself saying, “that’s right”, “that’s stupid”, or how about “that’s wrong”? I’ll bet it wasn’t long ago.  We all do it at least occasionally.  Even us reformed “rightaholics” aren’t perfect :)

I’m convinced that mind-games (unconscious habits and reactions) like “rightaholicism” are somehow mysteriously installed in our brains sometime early in life (sort of like pre-installed software on a new computer).  And it’s not until later, after a few hard knocks, we realize that the mind-games do us more harm than good.  And I’m sure you know just how hard it can be to uninstall old mind-games. They’re deeply ingrained stubborn habits, and they don’t like to change.

Carnegie goes on to tell a story about some tough love Ben Franklin received from a wise old friend.  His friend warns him,

“Ben, your are impossible.  Your opinions have a slap in them for everyone who differs with you.  They have become so offensive that nobody cares for them.  Your friends find they enjoy themselves better when you’re not around.  You know so much that no man can tell you anything.”

That very day Ben decided to change.  And as you probably know, Ben Franklin later became known as one of the most diplomatic men in American history.  It just goes to show…old dogs can learn new tricks, and so can we.

I’ll let you in on a little secret I learned along the way.  Being wrong is far easier and less stressful than being right!  And it’s more fun too!  In fact, once you get the hang of it, it’s effortless.  You’re going to love it!  You simply drop the beliefs, the thoughts, and the behaviors that drive you to prove your point.  Drop the arguments, drop the disagreements, and drop the corrections.  Just stop.

Think of it this way.  Accepting another person’s point of view (rather than debating or resisting it) doesn’t mean that you agree or that it’s true for you.  It simply means that the other person has a different perspective than you do. That’s it!  It’s not good, bad, right, or wrong…it just is…and sometimes it’s interesting.

So, what’s it going to be for you?  Do you want to keep paddling upstream, or would you like to try floating downstream? 

Are you ready to experiment with learning to love being wrong?  Here are a few tips to get you started.

Listen Up – For the next 24 hours put up your antenna and tune in to the conversations going on around you.  Don’t forget to listen to yourself too.  Then take 15 – 30 minutes to reflect on these questions at the end of the day. 

  • How often did you hear disagreements, contradictions, or people correcting each other?
  • Were people relating to each other, or were they reacting?
  • How important were the topics being discussed?

Select a Strategy To Test – Try a couple of these ideas or create your own

  • Instead of “stating” your opinion, try prefacing your statement with, “I may be wrong” or “this is just my personal opinion”
  • Instead of giving your opinion, ask for more information like “tell me more about that”, or “what do you think about that?”
  • Instead of giving your opinion, make a neutral comment like “that’s interesting” or “interesting perspective” or “oh really?”

Reflect On Your Results – Notice what’s different for you.  How do you feel different?  Are other people noticing a difference?

Share your experience here!

Think Like A Free Agent

Think Like A Free Agent is the very first lesson in my free ecourse, "How To Become The MVP In Your Profession".  It was based on the concepts Dan Pink taught in his book, "Free Agent Nation".

Free agent thinking is about thinking of yourself as a business, even if you work for another company.  It's about building your personal brand, and creating your unique identity in whatever work you choose.

A couple of days ago Donald Latumanhina, from the Life Optimizer blog, posted and excellent article called, "How To Make Yourself Your Own Company".  Briefly, his 10 key points are:

  1. Think of your employer as your customer
  2. Take responsibility
  3. Find your core competences
  4. Outsource things outside your core competences
  5. Find your mission
  6. Create your one-liner
  7. Build your personal brand
  8. Diversify your customer base
  9. Plan your moves
  10. Record your financial activities

All of it is excellent advice!  Go read more about what Donald has to say here.

Resources For Surviving Dysfunctional Holiday Gatherings

I’m Lora Adrianse and I survived oodles of dysfunctional holiday gatherings.  I don’t mean to imply that my way is the right way, but eventually I found the solution that works for me.  And with a little soul searching and planning, you can too.

Kristine Cane is writing a great series called “The Functionally-Challenged Holiday Guide”.  So far, the series includes:
The Self Care Guide
The Preparation Guide
The Presence Guide
Some of my favorite tips she covers are:  Decide How You Want To Feel; Go Complaint Free; Take The Conversation Deeper; Being Kind vs. Being Right.  They’re all great tips.  Go take a read.

If you’re in the mood for adding a little dark humor to your gathering, you may want to try Dysfunctional Family Bingo, brought to us by Meredith O’Brien at BostonHerald.com.

Mark Goulston also offers some excellent advice in his post titled, "Papertrain Your Problem Relatives For Xmas".

And finally, if worse comes to worse, you may decide to do what I did many years ago.  Save yourself and just say, “No”.  I decided I no longer wanted the emotional hangover that followed the dysfunctional celebrations, so I set a boundary and stopped going.  To this day, my holidays are peaceful, even though I spend them alone.

What about you?  How do you cope with dysfunctional holiday gatherings?

Censor Your Critical Comments

Think about the last time someone took a cheap shot at you. Do you remember exactly what was said?  Do you remember how it made you feel in the moment?  Do you remember how many people you told about it?

While you may not remember exactly what was said, chances are that you still remember how you felt.  It’s how our brains work.  We tend to remember how people treat us.  And it’s likely that the person who took the cheap shot has no memory of it what so ever.

Interesting isn’t it?  We tend to forget critical comments we make, but we remember critical comments that we receive.

We all make critical comments, at least on occasion.  A little zing here and a little jab there, and a little sarcasm disguised as humor just for laughs.  Before we know it, making critical comments has become a full-blown habit.  A harmful habit that hurts people and destroys relationships.

Is it possible that you have a habit of making critical comments?  We don’t see ourselves as other people see us you know.  Would you like to broaden your self-awareness?

Select someone you trust to be honest with you.  Ask him/her to keep track of your critical comments for 1 – 3 days.  Schedule some private time to sit down and listen to the results.  Just listen.  Don’t explain or make excuses.  When it’s over, just say “Thank you”. 

If you don’t like what you hear, make a decision to change the habit.  Experiment for 30 days.

Think before you speak – Try Marshall Goldsmith’s advice to decide if your critical comment is worth it.  Before you speak, ask yourself:

  • Will this comment help our customers?
  • Will this comment help our company?
  • Will this comment help the person I’m talking to?
  • Will this comment help the person I’m talking about?

If the answer is no, don’t say it.  Bite your tongue if necessary.

If you decide that your comment worth it, try these 3 tips:

Ask for permission – Instead of just blurting out your comment, ask something like, “Would you like my thoughts about this?”

Approach thoughtfully – As Stephen Covey taught us, begin with the end in mind.  Imagine that your conversation will end up on Youtube.com.  Approach it accordingly.

Ask for clarification – When emotions are tense (and usually they are in critical situations), it helps to assume that you are missing something.  Start by asking something like, “Could you help me understand…”

Critical comments are nothing but knee jerk reactions to stressful situations.  These tips will help you buy yourself some time to think before you speak.  And sometimes, that’s all it takes.  Give it a little time and some practice.  You’ll be glad you did. 

Try Feedforward Instead Of Feedback

Today's post is a strategy developed by one of my all time favorite authors, Marshall Goldsmith.  This feedforward strategy is so powerful that I thought it was important to share Marshall's entire article, rather than just my thoughts about it.  This article, along with a goldmine of others can be found at The Marshall Goldsmith Library.

Without further ado, here's Marshall's article:  Try Feedforward Instead Of Feedback

Providing feedback has long been considered to be an essential skill for leaders.  As they strive to achieve the goals of the organization, employees need to know how they are doing.  They need to know if their performance is in line with what their leaders expect.  They need to learn what they have done well and what they need to change.  Traditionally, this information has been communicated in the form of “downward feedback” from leaders to their employees.  Just as employees need feedback from leaders, leaders can benefit from feedback from their employees. Employees can provide useful input on the effectiveness of procedures and processes and as well as input to managers on their leadership effectiveness.  This “upward feedback” has become increasingly common with the advent of 360° multi-rater assessments.

But there is a fundamental problem with all types of feedback: it focuses on a past, on what has already occurred—not on the infinite variety of opportunities that can happen in the future.  As such, feedback can be limited and static, as opposed to expansive and dynamic.

Over the past several years, I have observed more than ten thousand leaders as they participated in a fascinating experiential exercise.  In the exercise, participants are each asked to play two roles.  In one role, they are asked provide feedforward —that is, to give someone else suggestions for the future and help as much as they can.  In the second role, they are asked to accept feedforward—that is, to listen to the suggestions for the future and learn as much as they can.  The exercise typically lasts for 10-15 minutes, and the average participant has 6-7 dialogue sessions.  In the exercise participants are asked to: 

·    Pick one behavior that they would like to change.  Change in this behavior should make a significant, positive difference in their lives.

·    Describe this behavior to randomly selected fellow participants. This is done in one-on-one dialogues.  It can be done quite simply, such as, “I want to be a better listener.”

·    Ask for feedforward—for two suggestions for the future that might help them achieve a positive change in their selected behavior.  If participants have worked together in the past, they are not allowed to give ANY feedback about the past.  They are only allowed to give ideas for the future.

·    Listen attentively to the suggestions and take notes.  Participants are not allowed to comment on the suggestions in any way.  They are not allowed to critique the suggestions or even to make positive judgmental statements, such as, “That’s a good idea.”

·    Thank the other participants for their suggestions.

·    Ask the other persons what they would like to change.

·    Provide feedforward - two suggestions aimed at helping the other person change.

·    Say, “You are welcome.” when thanked for the suggestions.  The entire process of both giving and receiving feedforward usually takes about two minutes.

·    Find another participant and keep repeating the process until the exercise is stopped.

When the exercise is finished, I ask participants to provide one word that best describes their reaction to this experience.  I ask them to complete the sentence, “This exercise was …”.  The words provided are almost always extremely positive, such as “great”, “energizing”, “useful” or “helpful.”  The most common word mentioned is “fun!”

What is the last word that most of us think about when we receive feedback, coaching and developmental ideas?  Fun!

Eleven Reasons to Try Feedforward

Participants are then asked why this exercise is seen as fun and helpful as opposed to painful, embarrassing or uncomfortable.  Their answers provide a great explanation of why feedforward can often be more useful than feedback as a developmental tool.

1.    We can change the future.  We can’t change the past.  Feedforward helps people envision and focus on a positive future, not a failed past.  Athletes are often trained using feedforward.  Racecar drivers are taught to, “Look at the road ahead, not at the wall.”  Basketball players are taught to envision the ball going in the hoop and to imagine the perfect shot.  By giving people ideas on how they can be even more successful, we can increase their chances of achieving this success in the future.

2.    It can be more productive to help people be “right,” than prove they were “wrong.”  Negative feedback often becomes an exercise in “let me prove you were wrong.”  This tends to produce defensiveness on the part of the receiver and discomfort on the part of the sender.  Even constructively delivered feedback is often seen as negative as it necessarily involves a discussion of mistakes, shortfalls, and problems.  Feedforward, on the other hand, is almost always seen as positive because it focuses on solutions – not problems.

3.    Feedforward is especially suited to successful people. Successful people like getting ideas that are aimed at helping them achieve their goals.  They tend to resist negative judgment.  We all tend to accept feedback that is consistent with the way we see ourselves.  We also tend to reject or deny feedback that is inconsistent with the way we see ourselves.  Successful people tend to have a very positive self-image.  I have observed many successful executives respond to (and even enjoy) feedforward.  I am not sure that these same people would have had such a positive reaction to feedback. 

4.    Feedforward can come from anyone who knows about the task.  It does not require personal experience with the individual.  One very common positive reaction to the previously described exercise is that participants are amazed by how much they can learn from people that they don’t know!  For example, if you want to be a better listener, almost any fellow leader can give you ideas on how you can improve.  They don’t have to know you.  Feedback requires knowing about the person.  Feedforward just requires having good ideas for achieving the task.

5.    People do not take feedforward as personally as feedback. In theory, constructive feedback is supposed to “focus on the performance, not the person”.  In practice, almost all feedback is taken personally (no matter how it is delivered).  Successful people’s sense of identity is highly connected with their work.  The more successful people are, the more this tends to be true.  It is hard to give a dedicated professional feedback that is not taken personally.  Feedforward cannot involve a personal critique, since it is discussing something that has not yet happened!  Positive suggestions tend to be seen as objective advice – personal critiques are often viewed as personal attacks.

6.    Feedback can reinforce personal stereotyping and negative self-fulfilling prophecies.  Feedforward can reinforce the possibility of change.  Feedback can reinforce the feeling of failure.  How many of us have been “helped” by a spouse, significant other or friend, who seems to have a near-photographic memory of our previous “sins” that they share with us in order to point out the history of our shortcomings.  Negative feedback can be used to reinforce the message, “this is just the way you are”.  Feedforward is based on the assumption that the receiver of suggestions can make positive changes in the future.

7.    Face it!  Most of us hate getting negative feedback, and we don’t like to give it. I have reviewed summary 360° feedback reports for over 50 companies.  The items, “provides developmental feedback in a timely manner” and “encourages and accepts constructive criticism” almost always score near the bottom on co-worker satisfaction with leaders.  Traditional training does not seem to make a great deal of difference.  If leaders got better at providing feedback every time the performance appraisal forms were “improved”, most should be perfect by now!  Leaders are not very good at giving or receiving negative feedback.  It is unlikely that this will change in the near future.

8.    Feedforward can cover almost all of the same “material” as feedback. Imagine that you have just made a terrible presentation in front of the executive committee.  Your manager is in the room.  Rather than make you “relive” this humiliating experience, your manager might help you prepare for future presentations by giving you suggestions for the future.  These suggestions can be very specific and still delivered in a positive way.  In this way your manager can “cover the same points” without feeling embarrassed and without making you feel even more humiliated.

9.    Feedforward tends to be much faster and more efficient than feedback. An excellent technique for giving ideas to successful people is to say, “Here are four ideas for the future.  Please accept these in the positive spirit that they are given.  If you can only use two of the ideas, you are still two ahead.  Just ignore what doesn’t make sense for you.”  With this approach almost no time gets wasted on judging the quality of the ideas or “proving that the ideas are wrong”.  This “debate” time is usually negative; it can take up a lot of time, and it is often not very productive.  By eliminating judgment of the ideas, the process becomes much more positive for the sender, as well as the receiver.  Successful people tend to have a high need for self-determination and will tend to accept ideas that they “buy” while rejecting ideas that feel “forced” upon them.

10.    Feedforward can be a useful tool to apply with managers, peers and team members.  Rightly or wrongly, feedback is associated with judgment.  This can lead to very negative – or even career-limiting - unintended consequences when applied to managers or peers.  Feedforward does not imply superiority of judgment.  It is more focused on being a helpful “fellow traveler” than an “expert”.  As such it can be easier to hear from a person who is not in a position of power or authority.  An excellent team building exercise is to have each team member ask, “How can I better help our team in the future?” and listen to feedforward from fellow team members (in one-on-one dialogues.)

11.    People tend to listen more attentively to feedforward than feedback. One participant is the feedforward exercise noted, “I think that I listened more effectively in this exercise than I ever do at work!”  When asked why, he responded, “Normally, when others are speaking, I am so busy composing a reply that will make sure that I sound smart – that I am not fully listening to what the other person is saying.  In feedforward the only reply that I am allowed to make is ‘thank you’.  Since I don’t have to worry about composing a clever reply – I can focus all of my energy on listening to the other person!”

In summary, the intent of this article is not to imply that leaders should never give feedback or that performance appraisals should be abandoned.  The intent is to show how feedforward can often be preferable to feedback in day-to-day interactions.  Aside from its effectiveness and efficiency, feedforward can make life a lot more enjoyable.  When managers are asked, “How did you feel the last time you received feedback?” their most common responses are very negative.  When managers are asked how they felt after receiving feedforward, they reply that feedforward was not only useful, it was also fun!

Quality communication—between and among people at all levels and every department and division—is the glue that holds organizations together.  By using feedforward—and by encouraging others to use it—leaders can dramatically improve the quality of communication in their organizations, ensuring that the right message is conveyed, and that those who receive it are receptive to its content.  The result is a much more dynamic, much more open organization—one whose employees focus on the promise of the future rather than dwelling on the mistakes of the past.

Manage Your Weaknesses

In a previous article, Overcome Limitations That Are Holding You Back, I shared a little story about Rhonda, and how her weaknesses were holding her back from more success.

Now, Brian Brim, a Principal and leader of Global Client Education for The Gallup Organization, has followed with an excellent article for the Gallup Management Journal.  Debunking Strengths Myths #1: Adopting a strength based approach doesn't mean you can ignore your weaknesses

Brain's strategy for managing your weaknesses:

  • Get the right education and training
  • Leverage your greatest talents
  • Form complementary partnerships
  • Just do it
  • Stop doing it

Great advice Brian!  Go check out the details of his article here.

What are your tips for managing your weaknesses?

Think Before You Label People

As a favor to a friend, I accepted a short-term contract project for my former employer.  My desk was right next to Debbie’s.  In addition to her normal executive assistant responsibilities, Debbie was asked to help me get whatever I needed. 

Debbie and I spent the first day getting to know each other.  Since I needed to rely on her for certain things, it was critical that we started out on the right foot.  On the second day she seemed especially friendly.  She even asked if I had time to help her with a special project.

The following morning I met with the executive who contracted with me.  At the end of our meeting, I confirmed that it was OK to invest a little time in helping Debbie with her project.  Later that day Debbie and I were talking and I said, “Oh by the way, Roberta gave the go ahead for me to help you with that project, so feel free to pile it on”. 

Suddenly, the friendliness in her face turned into a steel stare.  “I asked you that in confidence!” she sneered as she jerked herself closer to her desk.  “Debbie, I didn’t know that your request was confidential.  The company is paying me a lot of money to be here.  I needed to make sure that they want me to spend my time on this.  Help me understand why you’re so upset,” I pleaded.  “Never mind, I can’t trust you!” she snipped.

Debbie never spoke more than a few words to me again.  In fact, she went as far as meeting with the executive who hired me to make sure her feelings were known.

In a heartbeat, Debbie labeled me as untrustworthy.  And to make matters worse, she proceeded to make her case with other people.  Fortunately, I had years of history with this company.  If I hadn’t, Debbie’s baseless snap judgment could have damaged my reputation. 

Even though none of us likes to be labeled or stereotyped, the truth is we all do it in one way or another. Our brain processes more efficiently when it can reference a label it already knows how to handle.  It stores the meaning of the label for quick access later.  The trouble is that our brains go on automatic pilot and without realizing it we react to people or situations without thinking.  And sometimes those automatic reactions are inappropriate, incorrect, unfair, and even damaging.

When I was young and foolish, I labeled a colleague “airhead”.  At the time, I thought it described her…and besides it made people laugh.  One day she called for someone else in the office.  “Carolyn, the airhead is on the phone for you” I bellowed across the room.  What I didn’t realize was that the caller heard me.  Rightfully so, she felt hurt and disrespected.  Before I knew it her boss was in my boss’s office.  I learned a very good lesson that day.

What about you?  Is it time for you to rethink the labels you use for people?

The next time you catch yourself tagging a person with a label, stop and ask yourself these questions:

  • Does this label inspire or does it undermine?
  • If the other person heard it, would I be proud or would I be embarrassed?
  • How would I feel if I knew someone used this label to describe me?

Chances are we’re never going to totally overcome the habit of labeling people.  But with a little thought and discipline, we can choose to use them wisely.

Share your thoughts on labeling people.

Treat Advice As A Gift

Advice is a funny thing.  It’s one of those things that is easier to give than it is to receive.

We all have a little advisor in us who stands guard; ready and willing to help the moment we spot someone who could use a little advice.  It’s one of the few things we all seem to have plenty to give.  Offering advice makes us feel as if we’re being helpful to the people we care about, and sometimes even strangers. 

However, when the tables are turned and someone offers us advice, we tend to get defensive…especially if it’s something we don’t particularly want to hear.  Suddenly the person giving the advice becomes an enemy under attack.  Almost automatically, we whip out our imaginary machine gun and start shooting holes in the well-intended comments.  Sometimes we argue, justify, or even sling an insult at the other person.  All too often, we go to extremes and do whatever it takes to make the other person wrong.

Even though we all offer more than our share of advice, when we’re on the receiving end, it’s a different story.  Many of us unknowingly, are not open to receiving the same valuable advice that we share so freely. 

It’s ironic isn’t it? 

Think about it for a minute.  What is the most valuable piece of advice you’ve ever received? I’ll bet you can come up with an answer pretty quickly.

You might be thinking to yourself, “I came up with an answer, so that must mean that I’m open to receiving advice.  This article doesn’t really apply to me.”

Wait just a minute and think again.  How long did it take you to realize that (your answer to the advice question), was so valuable?  Did you realize it as soon as it was offered, or was it later, over a period of time?

Chances are, it took a while for the advice to sink in.  And maybe you even received the same advice several times before you finally accepted it.  It’s sort of like how we learn lessons.  We get the same lesson presented to us over and over again, until we finally learn it.

How do you treat advice as a gift? Try this the next time some offers you well-intended advice:

Just Listen – no comments, arguments, objections, excuses, or explanations
Receive – accept that the other person is trying to be helpful and that the advice might have some merit
Acknowledge – just say “Thank You”, nothing more
Decide – consider the advice and decide if you’ll use it now or save it for later

So, why should you consider treating advice as a gift? Here are a few of my thoughts, see if you can add your own to the list:

  • You can drop the defensiveness and avoid the negative energy that goes with it
  • Being more open will help you strengthen your relationships
  • People will be more willing to tell you what they’re really thinking
  • You just may learn something

Here’s the beauty of treating advice as a gift.  Once you accept it and receive it, you can choose to use it now, or put it away for later when it makes more sense to you.

Think of it like opening gifts on a special holiday.  You might get pajamas that you can use right now, or you might get a bathing suit that you put away for later. 

And who knows, the advice you get could be a lesson in disguise, just waiting to be opened. 

Let me know how you do!

This article was inspired by Marshall Goldsmith’s book

What Got You Here Won't Get You There

How I Learned To Be More Objective

It’s funny how we can remember the intricate details of lessons learned years ago, yet we can’t remember where we put the car keys last night. 

It was in the early 80’s and I was sitting on the opposite side of my boss’s desk.  I was getting chewed-out for over-passionately expressing an opinion in a meeting.  While I don’t remember exactly what it was about, I do recall asking, “What do you do to express your opinions?”  “I only have opinions about things that really matter to me,” she answered.

That day I got two lessons in one chew-out session.  Not bad odds.  These were some of the most valuable lessons in my life.

Lesson One – You don’t need to have an opinion about everything. 

Lesson Two – There are acceptable and unacceptable ways to express opinions.

Quite honestly, the harshness of the conversation shut me down for a while.  That turned out to be a good thing.  It bought me the time and space I needed to reflect on how other people perceived me. 

It gave me time to practice listening without forming an opinion.  I stopped offering opinions unless I was asked.  When I did speak up I chose my words carefully.  I neutralized the intensity of the emotion behind my words.  I talked less and listened more.  I learned to ask more questions and give fewer instructions. 

Over time, I realized that changing my habits was changing my life.  When I realized I could stop being the judge and jury for the world, it was like I’d stepped out of a pressure cooker.  I was happier, quicker to laugh, and my relationships with others began to blossom.

Because I was more open-minded I learned more from others.  I discovered lots of options to solving problems and I made better decisions.

Eventually, people started turning to me as a trusted advisor. 

I don’t typically write about myself here, because this blog is not about me, it’s about helping you remove roadblocks to success. 

Perhaps you can relate to this story.  Or perhaps you’ll share it with another person that will.  If so, I’ve made a difference, and that’s what really matters.

Become A Trend Watcher

What do you know about the virtual world of Second Life?  A little?  A lot?  Anything?

I don’t know all that much about it.  What I do know is this:

  • It’s a virtual community with almost 6 million members
  • Companies and universities are using it for virtual training and education
  • IBM is using it in a variety of ways including new employee orientation
  • Most popular business magazines have featured Second Life in at least one story

These are triggers for meThey tell me that something important is going on in Second Life.  While I haven’t yet spent the time to figure it all out, you can be sure that when I hear or read something about Second Life, I pay attention.  And you should too.

This may surprise you, but this article is not about what you know or don’t know about Second Life.  It’s to help you understand the importance of becoming a trend watcher.

Quite honestly, too many people rely on the evening news or the local newspaper for information about what’s going on in the world.  It’s just not enough.  If you didn’t know about Second Life before now, what else could you be missing?

If you plan to be in business (for yourself or within a company) in the next 5 years, you need to know what’s coming.  And most importantly of all, you need to consider how it can impact the future of your work and your life.  It’s time to broaden your scope. 

How do you become a trend watcher?

Make time to read – Set aside a minimum of 2 hours each week to learn about trends, new technology and changes in business.

Mix your media – Subscribe to a mixture of business books, magazines, blogs, online newsletters, and even The Wallstreet Journal.

Digest and dig deeper – After you read an article ask yourself these questions:

  • How could this impact my company, my job, or my life in the future?
  • What are 3 ways I can use this information?
  • What else do I need to know about it?

Take advantage of Web 2.0 – If you’re not yet well acclimated to the power of the internet, the time is now and the cost is mostly free.  Right at the end of your fingertips, you have access to the entire world and a wealth of information.

Let me ask you this…

When your company is ready to explore the possibilities of using Second Life or the next big thing, will you be leading the way or will you be following along?

Here are a few of my favorite resources to get you started.  If you need more, I’m only a phone call or email away.

Trendwatching.com – This is an excellent online newsletter focused on consumer trends, ideas and insights.  It’s a must read.

Fast Company Magazine– Is great for keeping you abreast about what’s going on in the world of business.

Bob Sutton – The Working Life – Bob Sutton’s blog at Harvard Business online.  Bob shares his views and experience on management trends in corporate America.

Tom Peters – The day wouldn’t be complete without a rant from Tom on what’s going wrong and right in the world of business.

Seth Godin’s Blog – Surely, you know Seth.

What tools do you use to keep your finger on the pulse of business?  Post yours here.

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