I’m Lora Adrianse and I survived oodles of dysfunctional holiday gatherings. I don’t mean to imply that my way is the right way, but eventually I found the solution that works for me. And with a little soul searching and planning, you can too.
Kristine Cane is writing a great series called “The Functionally-Challenged Holiday Guide”. So far, the series includes:
The Self Care Guide
The Preparation Guide
The Presence Guide
Some of my favorite tips she covers are: Decide How You Want To Feel; Go Complaint Free; Take The Conversation Deeper; Being Kind vs. Being Right. They’re all great tips. Go take a read.
If you’re in the mood for adding a little dark humor to your gathering, you may want to try Dysfunctional Family Bingo, brought to us by Meredith O’Brien at BostonHerald.com.
Mark Goulston also offers some excellent advice in his post titled, "Papertrain Your Problem Relatives For Xmas".
And finally, if worse comes to worse, you may decide to do what I did many years ago. Save yourself and just say, “No”. I decided I no longer wanted the emotional hangover that followed the dysfunctional celebrations, so I set a boundary and stopped going. To this day, my holidays are peaceful, even though I spend them alone.
What about you? How do you cope with dysfunctional holiday gatherings?